Thank You

I think it’s great that people from all over the world check out my small blog.

I really don’t know why, but it must be something I’m doing right.

I don’t know the first thing about communicating via social media, so this is a learning experience in that way as well as in the writing way.

I guess you could say this post is a thank you to everyone who checks out this blog. There’s a million blogs to choose from and it’s amazing to me when I get new people viewing my material.

I don’t have a profound topic today, but I am encouraged by the views and the likes, it helps me feel like I am building up that experience I’ll need later on in life with how to write to an audience that I don’t know, but I want to connect with.

So, thank you.

Natasha

First step

So, just a short little tidbit today.

This was the day I got behind the wheel of a car and drove for the first time.

Yaaaaaaaay!!!!!

Finally.

It won’t be too long now before I get my license, and I waited an extra amount of time to be ready.

I can just say that it’s better to wait until you’re ready to do something. Forget the average age, and if you’re ready early, fine; if you’re ready late, that’s also fine. Not that I’m talking about doing anything illegal.

And then you just take the first step and keep going.

Whether it seems like a big deal or not, I’m a little bit closer to a lot more freedom. I think that’s a principle of life. Every little thing we do right puts us a little closer to freedom. Whether it’s choosing not to binge (last post) choosing to study that extra hour, choosing to out in a little more effort at work, we always want more personal responsibility, because that’s what’s fulfilling. (In the area of what you do.)

U100_1577ntil Next Post–Natasha.

Feast?

Let’s talk about something new, at least as far as I can recall, I’ve never blogged about it.

I’m gonna do this a little differently, before announcing my topic, I’m going to list a few examples of it.

One: Watching a whole season of a show in one sitting.

Two: Eating a whole box of chocolates.

Three: Playing a game for half the day.

And what do these three things have in common? You got it, they all have to do with a thing we call bingeing.

There has got to be a more widespread problem than this, but it’s probably in the Top Ten of First World issues. It’s possible people would get defensive if I even called it a full on problem. We all find various ways to justify our indulgences.

But let’s just be honest, we all know doing anything in excess is unhealthy. I’ve done it yes, but I always pay a price. Too much of a show makes me feel cranky and it’s not even enjoyable after a certain point. Too much food, and sooner or later, you stop eating it because it tastes good, and just eat it because it’s your go-to comfort. Too much gaming and it becomes more and more about needing to conquer the game and less and less about fun and imagination. Now, these are only three things, there are endless examples.

Bingeing is not a 21st century invention, it’s as old as the hills, only it used to be called gluttony. Or luxury, by some. Or indulgence. sometimes we are disgusted with it even when it’s our own; other times we need to take a look at the bigger picture.

The most disturbing thing I saw recently was, I believe, Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs. When I watched it a few years ago, I thought it was okay, weird, but with a good moral. But now that I’ve seen it as an adult, I think it actually has no real point. The best part is where Mr. T. (as a police officer) gives his speech. he’s the  most honest person in the movie. And the father of Flint is the most sensible. The whole plot turns around a machine that can turn water into food by mutating it. I realized that there is absolutely no way that could be healthy for a person but that is never discussed. However, what we see is that it is definitely harmful, people start getting carried away pretty quickly. A lot of them start eating constantly, the food is almost addictive to them. It is never said whether the food is actually addictive in its genetic make up, but there’s not much doubt of it from an emotional perspective.

In the end, the people’s greed becomes so great, the food literally almost destroys them. I would give the movie a pass if I thought the lesson here was intentional, and expounded upon, but it has to be read into for you to see what happened. Still, it’s a good metaphor for gluttony.

Flint, who created the machine, meant it to be a good thing, but he was motivated by a desire to be accepted by everyone, and have his genius appreciated. So he did not bother testing his product on anything beforehand, or considering what it would do to people if they could get food without effort. Or if it could have any real nutritional value. he also let his desire for appreciation get in the way of turning off the machine while he could, before it got to the disastrous point, or standing up to the people about making so many demands. How many creators of our own time give the consumers products, and never bother to consider whether it’s good for them or not.

See, people used to care about providing each other with quality, a lot still do, but many of us play off each other’s weaknesses to sell things. It’s selfish, and we’re paying for it.

But what’s more, why did no one except Flint’s dad ever think of the possible problems with the food? Why was he the only one who realized people were liking it too much?

Why did the mayor care so much about fame that he became a more and more reprehensible leader, as he became the biggest glutton of all, and embraced it. Encouraging the  people to keep it up.

Perhaps like those who write and act in shows and movies that are complete trash, just because there are a lot of fans addicted to the products.

In the end, their own greed nearly destroyed them all. And yes, gluttony is greed. We gorge ourselves on things out of fear that we’re left out, or alone, like Flint. Or we buy into the right shows and games because we get a sense of triumph from it. Or of belonging. And greed is what motivates a lot of screenwriters and producers.

This is not a nice subject by any means, but I can’t always pick nice subjects. I don’t like thinking about it, but after watching that stupid movie, I realized gluttony is a huge reason for our country’s decline. we want so many things, at no inconvenience to ourselves, that we’ve forgotten that sooner or later you have to pay the piper. Whether it’s with your health; your children ( see the original story;) your freedom; your emotional dependency; whatever.

If you ignore the red warning, you will suffer the consequences. That’s the hard truth.

On a final note, not everything we binge on we are addicted to, sometimes its’ a one time thing, it’s probably not a good idea, but that’s not being a glutton as a lifestyle.

Anyway, this has been a serious post, hopefully my next one will be about a

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happier subject, until then–Natasha

 

The Importance of Fun

I though I’d break from my more serious theme to talk about something equally important: Fun

I have a movie to illustrate this too, but I’ll talk about that later. First I want to say that despite the fact that I’m constantly thinking, (Or even because of that,) I make time for doing fun things on purpose.

I don’t think it matters what you’re doing, as long as it’s appropriate, just so you’re relaxing or getting pumped from the clean, honest excitement of doing fun things. For me, playing with my younger siblings is a lot of fun. And it  keeps out imaginations limber. When I want to have fun alone, I usually write. ; )  Nothing like getting lost in a story to take your mind off being sad or gloomy.

The only problem is that sometimes we use fun as a way to hide from our problems for too long, that’s another post right there.

I want to talk about the benefits of it. I’m sure you can list them right along with me. The most obvious might be that we get to bond with the people around us when we have fun; or that we get to relax and unplug from the stuff that stresses us out. But there’s a less acknowledged benefit too.

Now for the movie: Some of you may have seen Rise of the Guardians, in that movie (spoiler warning) towards the end, Jack Frost , the main protagonist, figures out that his center (his purpose) is fun. He is supposed to bring fun to the children, and this is what defeats the antagonist, Pitch Black. The point is to realize what being a kid is about, but adults need it too. Pitch Black wants everyone to be afraid of him, or of their nightmares, whatever. And that’s one reason fun is so important. It drives away fear. Ask any shy person if it’s easier to open up when they’ve had a lot of fun.

And last but not least, fun really helps us see things more clearly. We need to have a sense of humor in life, I mean, we’re bloggers, or blog-readers, we can’t take ourselves too seriously. No matter what our station in life is, or our circle of influence, we’ve got to be able to laugh at the absurd things we do, or have happen to us. Christian (and non Christian) comedians often say “God has a sense of humor.” And one has to acknowledge, that it does seem like the universe is just designed to be humorous, whether it’s in irony, or flat out comicalness. Watch an animal for a while, animals are hilarious. People may be even more so.

It’s really not hard to have fun, unless you make a big deal out of everything, in which case–chill. For goodness sake!

Literally, it’s much easier to be good when you’ve had a good laugh over something.

Happy Hunting–Natasha. 🙂

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Me, Yourself, and Respect.

Respect. There’s a word that’s gotten pretty iffy in recent years.

We all want respect, but I don’t think any of us are born wanting to give it to someone else.

Respect must be earned, that’s why it’s so difficult to give, and to earn. Often people have higher standards for us to earn their respect than we think they should have.

It’s on my mind because I happen to be one of those individuals who gets talked to about respect quite a bit. I also am one of those individuals who is socially unaware a lot. I’ve offended people without knowing it. Sometimes things I don’t find offensive personally end up offending other people. It always ends up coming back to respect and being polite. I’ve never cared that much about being polite aside from being decent to people , and considerate. But when it comes to saying just the right thing and doing just the right things, I’ll admit I’m pretty clueless.

I think it’s because I usually am assessing myself, and I miss the signals other people send sometimes. As I’ve gained confidence I’ve gotten better at reading people, you wouldn’t think those two things would go hand in hand, go figure.

Not to make excuses for myself or anything. I’ll bet some of you have been there. Often it’s easier to pick up on stuff in writing than when it’s happening.

Unfortunately, I’ve found very few people will be understanding of my problem with respect and manners. so if you find people who will, stick with them, and let them help you. That’s my best advice for overcoming this barrier. It is a real barrier too.

Respecting someone means treating them the right way according to their position in life, and in relation to you. You respect an employer one way, an employee another, and your peers still another. It’s best when we’re all humble enough to learn from each other, regardless of our status, but sometimes that doesn’t happen, and respect is what we give each other as human beings. It’s what keeps us functioning as a society.

Btu on a final note, I’ve also dealt with people who were determined to find fault with my behavior  no matter what it was, because they have their own personal standard that doesn’t make sense to other people; in that case, I would caution anyone against changing too much. Do the best you can to work with that person, but understand that even if you met their standards, it wouldn’t be worth it. It’s too much based on the superficial.

If anyone has any advice to add to this, go ahead, I need it too. Until next post–Natasha.

Proudly Unpopular–Part 4

Even though the last part was more general, I still wanted to talk about why my faith is so unpopular, so you know what you’re in for.

You see, I think a lot of Christians have this idea that if we were just nicer people, more non-believers would be interested in our message. And to be fair, a lot of unbelievers do say that.

I won’t argue that Christians often don’t know how to live out the faith. Maybe to some that means it doesn’t work, but I’ve never felt that way.

When I was growing up in church, I always sensed this difference between myself and the other believers. I would think to myself that they had something I didn’t. I never knew what it was exactly. Some describe it as happiness, but I wouldn’t call it that. It’s not that I didn’t believe, I did, but I lacked something. Some meaning that my parents saw, and other adults saw, and I didn’t. After I became a Christian full on, I realized what it was.

Before I reveal it, I want to say something more. I’ve since noticed the same difference between other people I know, and between different families I know. You may have noticed that you feel different around different people. Some make you feel secure, some make you nervous, some make you focused, others distract you.

The reason I don’t think Christians themselves are an excuse to stay away from Christianity is that despite the difference I mentioned, I never found Christians to be any nicer, more friendly, or more inclusive than non Christians. They acted the same most of the time, except they prayed and talked about the Bible, and listened to a different kind of music. So what made the difference?

The faith itself. Maybe this won’t make sense if you haven’t seen it, but faith really is a part of your personality. It should be the most important part. And though I believed, I lacked the genuine, fulfilled faith that I saw in other people. Until I began to have it myself.

Until I did, I hated anything in Christianity that was outside my comfort zone of what I could trust. I had nothing to make me more ready for the harder parts of it.

And that is why people hate Christianity. It is not that Christians are jerks, religions of more violence and cruelty than Christianity are not knocked as often or as bitterly as it; it is because Christianity is scary. C. S. Lewis wrote that until he became a Christian, he was sometimes terrified that Christianity might be true. After he became one, he had sickening doubts that it might be false. The problem is, Christianity, if you understand it at all, is not something you can be half in and half out. You are either all in, or all out. The Bible gives no middle ground. I don’t say this to convince anyone it’s true. My point is that those who are concerned about being nicer about it to toher people have missed the point.

It is not a nice religion.

Now, I can already hear the protests from those of you who are Christians, telling me that we need to be loving. Oh yes, we do. We need much more of that, there never can be too much of love in the world. That is not what I mean. I mean that there is no easy way to become a Christian.

We’ve put way too much focus on nursing people into it. People come to church and leave unchanged, not because we aren’t loving, not because we aren’t teaching the Word of God, not even because we are making God too soft; no, no , no, you can’t exaggerate the kindness of God, as Amanda Cook said. People leave because they don’t share the faith. And they don’t see it in us because we haven’t been honest about it.

You see, real faith is fiery. It makes timid people bold, and foolish people wise. this actually is true of any genuine faith in a good thing, but especially in God.

Christianity is not meant to be popular. It shouldn’t be. Not because I don’t wish it was, but because the only way it ever becomes popular is by people neglecting certain parts of it. (Study Martin Luther, you’ll see what I mean.) It is a waste of our time to try to make it more appealing by selling it on the world’s terms. We just need to live it. And I don’t mean by loving others, though that’s a big part, but by loving God more than others.

People, until I loved God more than others, or myself, I couldn’t really believe on Him and trust Him. Whatever your experience with God has been, until it’s to that point, it isn’t actually faith yet. If you aren’t ready for that, that’s okay. I had to get there. I’m not making an altar call. I just want to set the record straight.

I really want my love for God to be the most important thing to me. I don’t care if it make me unpopular, because when you really get to know Him, you don’t care anymore. The Bible really won’t make sense to someone until they realize that it’s about God and the People who loved Him, not about rules.

 

Okay, this did get preachy, but I warned you; if you read his far, you wanted to hear it. So, thank you, and until next post–Natasha.