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Am I a good judge of character?

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Yes.

I am very good at reading people and spotting patterns.

Unfortunately, I’m also trained to think I should put up with poor treatment, and I’ve had to try to break that habit for years. Still working on it.

They say choose peace, but sometimes, I want to choose security over peace.

Security meaning, what I am used to and think I can put up with. I guess I’ve been taught that that’s being tough.

Maybe it is, sometimes, but it’s not a good reason to put yourself around people who are only going to toss you aside.

Being tough means you deal with the regular problems of the job, or life, or whatever other thing you’re doing…not that you accept abuse and exploitation because you can “handle it.”

I’ve had to learn that the hard way. That if I can see someone is not reliable, I shouldn’t rely on them.

Sometimes though, it’s hard to go the other way and trust people even if they have shown themselves to be trustworthy. I’m used to no one having my best interests at heart, so it’s hard to believe anyone else ever does.

I know I’m not the only one who eels this way.

Here’s to all of us finding people we can truly count on–

Stay honest–Natasha

To be honest…yes.

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I am very good at reading people’s behavioral patterns. I can get a feel for what they probably will and won’t do.

Has given me some trust issues with people who take offense to that, though.

But it’s a useful thing to be able to do. I usually nkow who to ask for a favor, who will come through for me, etc.

I generally can get a read on people within 5-10 minutes of meeting them, and the more time I know them, the better I can predict their trustworthiness.

Which is a skill I thought everyone had till I realized the amount of times I’ve seen people put faith in someone who is abusive and toxic, no matter how many times they’ve proven to be that way. So I guess it’s not universal.

It can be frustrating to be intuitive around people who are not that way. Things that seem obvious to me often seem like I’m making snap judgments to people.

I’m not infallible though. I have been wrong, or I’ve failed to listen to my instincts and still trusted unworthy people, or maybe been too harsh on others.

I think it’s like predicting the weather. We’re pretty good at it now, but there are always slight changes or shifts that make us often wrong or at least slightly off from what really happens.

People can always surprise you, but if you’re good at judging character, you are surprised less often.

Case in point, I remember there was on actor who was accused of sexual harassment and after I looked into it and his actions and personality, I didn’t believe it was true. Though people claimed there was a lot of evidence. Later he was found innocent by the court.

Of course, maybe it’s not always provable, but, by and large, I can guess when someone is innocent and when they’re not.

I’d be curious to know if other people have the same mixed reception of this gift that I do, and if people tend to get mad at you for it or just to be confused as to why you don’t like something or someone even if you’ barley know them.

Thoughts?– Natasha